Parents and children during marriage problems

When parents are experiencing challenges in their marriage, they must consider how their children are being affected. Far too many parents get caught up in the daily chaos of their own dilemma and basically disregard the children and the effects on the children.

Parents should be very careful to talk with their children as honestly as possible in terms which are age appropriate. If parent are unsure about what is age appropriate , they need do their homework and learn either from a professional or from reading a book or two.

Children are perceptive and in tune with normal family interactions. Children know when something is not right. And if there is not positive conversation about issues then children might and probably will imagine things to be worse or more negative than necessary.

Children need to feel secure, supported, respected, and loved for optimal self esteem, and emotional and social development.

Parents being healthy and demonstrating an ability to work through their problems is very important during these times. Parents who are capable to manage their emotions, choose when and where to discuss (argue), and what to allow children to hear are being responsible parents.

Please understand your marriage problems, separation, divorce is not only between you and your spouse!